“Postponed a Much-Desired Mastectomy Because He Wanted To Be Able To Give His Child His Own Milk”—The Selfishness of Transgenderism and Its Effect on Children and Normal Women

For all the glorification of transgenderism by the hip and liberated crowd, its practitioners and cheering section fail to notice how the entire movement is based on the self-centeredness of those who claim to be of a gender that they are not.

Luckily, in spite of the domination of academia by the left we laypeople can occasionally come across an open access article that enables those of us who cannot afford to subscribe to the many scholarly journals that buttress the transgenderist movement with “research” slanted its way to see for ourselves the way transgenderist sympathizers portray the movement.

Today, we will examine the article, Transgender Men Forming Two-Father Families with Their Cisgender Male Partners: Negotiating Gendered Expectations and Self-Perceptions published online August 23, 2022 in, LGBTQ+ Family: An Interdisciplinary Journal.

Just to clarify for those of you who don’t follow all these icky issues, “transgender men” are women who were born women but who think that they are now men and who try to convince the rest of the world that they are men. The sheer weirdness of this idea as these women try to behave as fathers will become apparent as we work our way through the article.

The self-centeredness of these women is signaled by the term “self-perceptions” in the title of the article. That is key—it is not about the children entangled in these situations. It is always about the “gender identity” of the parents involved. Obviously, this is a tragic, unhealthy situation for the children caught up in the transgenderist movement.

The article starts out:

This article explores the experiences of transgender men who became parents through childbirth and started families with their cisgender male partners. The study explores the transgender men’s experiences of having and raising children in this family constellation, with a specific focus on how they experience gender in their parenting role.

The very first sentence plunges us into the fantastical, misogynistic world of transgenderism and its campaign to wipe from the English language words like “women” and "mother":

transgender men who became parents through childbirth

The only people who can become parents through childbirth are women. “Transgender men” are women. Women who give birth are mothers. It is astonishing that one has to take the time to type that all into a blog post.

We are also provided glimpses into how these troubled women want to have everything their way. They want to be considered men, but they also demand access to female-only spaces during some of the most important times in women’s lives—the months before their children are born:

As transgender fathers, they found themselves expected to fulfill gendered expectations for women and mothers but sometimes appreciated access to women’s spaces.

Could anything be more obnoxious or hypocritical than that? Having renounced their womanhood, these "fathers" want to force their way back into women's spaces. This ideology manages to be both incoherent and opportunistic.

This too is obnoxious and demonstrates what a threat transgenderism is to the peace of mind of normal, pregnant women:

The participants had employed different strategies to protect their masculine selves, such as concealing their pregnancy and/or defending the right to be respected as transgender pregnant men.

Their "right?"

Can you imagine being a normal pregnant woman at a prenatal clinic and having to deal with a woman who thinks she is a man who is determined to turn what should be a quiet, secure place into an ideological battleground? This is what transgenderism is doing to women and prenatal care.

The author touts her own article thus:

no previous study has focused specifically on transgender men’s experiences of forming two-father families with cisgender men

Maybe that is because it was only recently that we entered a decadent phase of human history where some societies decided to tolerate the idea of a woman passing as a man and functioning as a “father.”

One has to wonder what homosexual men who live with one another and raise children as two actual men think of being lumped in with “trans men” in this fashion:

A transgender-cisgender male couple shares some similarities with couples of two cisgender gay men. Just like the cisgender gay fathers, they are two men in a parenting unit who (commonly) raise their children in homes with two fathers and no mother. Both partners share a male gender identity, and both may self-identify as gay or bisexual men. Like cisgender gay men, the couple may be exposed to homophobia, and additionally to transphobia.

They are not “two men,” save in their own heads.

The author goes on to discuss the residual feelings of womanhood that the “trans man” feels. Remember, it is all about the “trans” person and her resentment of being a woman at all. Imagine what sort of damage those feelings will have on her daughter or daughters:

Despite these similarities, transgender-cisgender male couples also differ from cisgender male couples in several ways. Unlike cisgender men, transgender men have the experience of being raised and socialized as girls. Therefore, the transgender partner may experience other (gendered) expectations on his parenting

We are told:

Going through pregnancy can be a highly stressful experience for a transgender man

Well, yeah. If you are a woman and pregnant pretending that you are a man pregnancy is going to be, well, stressful.

For example, we are told about the unfortunate women who so desperately want to deny their own womanhood:

To many, pregnancy conflicts with the masculine gender identity, and the experience of feminizing bodily changes is often troublesome, with some people feeling detached from their own body

I am sorry, but it is really hard not to break into an outright burst of laughter at the earnestness of the academic who can write lines such “pregnancy conflicts with the masculine gender identity.” No, really?

The author also uses the term “cisgenderism” which is transgenderist jargon for those who not transgenderists. You know, normal men and women. She deplores this perfectly normal situation:

It is also common to experience cisgenderism in reproductive healthcare

You mean women are treated as women? Shocking!

As mentioned above, “trans men” (i.e. women) want to have it both ways—to be treated as men and yet to be treated as women when they become pregnant—as only women can be:

They may also embrace the capacity to become pregnant and incorporate this into their male gender identity. Such a process can be described as a reestablishment of a procreative consciousness, as transgender men…

Sorry, “trans men.” You can protest as much as you like, but men cannot be pregnant. And you are not men, anyway. It’s not a matter of identity, but of biology.

And how is this for a prime example of the academese that transgenderism employs to try to obliterate traditional and accurate ways of referring to motherhood. That is, it is merely a matter of the generation of a “procreative consciousness.”

In pro-transgenderism articles, these wacky people are always presented as heroic:

Gender non-conforming parents may challenge hegemonic understandings of mothering and fathering

We read of the manufactured maleness that these women have gruesomely inflicted on themselves such as this of one subject “who had had a mastectomy many years before his children were born bottle-fed his infants” (note that “his” is used when referring to these women), whereas the other, “in contrast, postponed a much-desired mastectomy because he wanted to be able to give his child his own milk.” What could be more unnatural and brutalizing than all of this breast mutilation? The tender act of feeding a baby has to be negotiated around breast-related butchery. Again, the self-hatred of their own womanhood of these “trans men” is dysfunctional and saddening.

Note how motherhood itself is regarded as somewhat distasteful by these faux men—referring to the ability to become pregnant and to give birth one subject

embraced these abilities as a gender-neutral human capacity, and as something incorporated in the transgender male identity

Think about that. The single greatest act in a woman’s life is regarded by the transgenderist movement as merely something to be incorporated in the transgender male identity. Transgenderism is bad for women and for human society.

As noted above, transgenderism zealotry can often lead into obnoxiousness. Note how one of subjects interviewed is so obsessed with her “maleness” that she ends up bullying a midwife:

described his experience of attending an antenatal class, where the midwife who led the course seemed ignorant of transmasculine people’s pregnancies… The one-sided focus on pregnant women made…feel excluded, and he decided to take up this issue with the lecturer. In doing this, he was standing up for his and other trans people’s right to their gender identities and their reproductive abilities.

So, here we have a woman who thinks she is a man demanding that a midwife, of all people, cater to those who think of themselves as men.

This same bullying person also seems bothered by her own natural maternal instincts and tries to suppress them because they are unmanly—and remember this is a woman, not a man:

described how he feared that a soft parenting style would be associated too strongly with femininity and maternity. This led to an internal conflict for him, where he on the one hand wanted to be a soft and protective parent, but on the other hand feared that this would raise other people’s doubts about his male gender identity.

So, this woman wants to be allowed to go to a prenatal care class, but she also wants to be butch and dictatorial. Again, it is always about the trans person’s “identity” and never about anyone else:

always had to negotiate the threat that other people would invalidate his male gender identity, in particular if he behaved in a way that was understood as feminine

It is noticeable in the literature of transgenderism that those who adhere to radical gender ideology find the world of normal people a stressful place, that constantly has to be “negotiated”:

participants felt uncomfortable with the thought and/or experience of being perceived as women when being visibly pregnant, and one of them in addition feared being exposed to violations when being perceived as a pregnant transgender men. Their testimonies confirm previous studies showing that transgender men are exposed to ignorance and disregard in a society where pregnancy continuous [sic] to be strongly associated with female gender and femininity

Imagine what it must be like to see the world as hostile because it associates women and pregnancy. And normal people are "ignorant."

These women are, let’s face it, deeply screwed up and what is more they want the best of both worlds—a) they want to force people to treat them as men while b) aggressively demanding access to women-only spaces in the delicate period before a baby is born and demanding that those in women’s healthcare cater to the needs of women who deny that they are women:

For transgender men, imposed femininity risks becoming gender dysphoric experiences. Such dysphoria was described by the participants in the present study, and echoes previous research on transgender men feeling urged to protect their masculine selves, e.g. through presenting themselves as stereotypic masculine… However, according to the participants in the present study, access to women’s and mothers’ spaces and experiences can also be seen as valuable resources for the transgender men.

Thus, providing women with prenatal care is “imposed femininity” and can have a deleterious impact on women who loathe being women but who have intruded into women-only spaces. The children of such women take second place to the battle-ready stance of the women who think they are men:

Their struggles show how a male gender identity is not claimed once and for all, but must rather be reclaimed repeatedly in relation to others’ reactions.

These women are so eager to be considered to be men that they even bridle at approval for their performance as mothers. They don’t think of themselves as women, so being labeled and praised as mothers irritates them—yet more evidence of the misogyny of transgenderism, in which “trans men” are to be treated as women only at certain points (such as pregnancy)—and even then they are combative and easily offended. In transgenderism, motherhood, maternal feeling and mothering ability are denigrated (and remember as you read this passage that “he” is a woman):

One participant described a huge difference in how he was treated by people who presumed him to be a cisgender man, compared to when he was known to be a transgender man. As soon as people knew that he was transgender, and that he was the gestational parent, he was expected to be the main caregiver, and no one would praise him for his daily duties. Thus, caretaking engagements, which is often taken for granted when performed by women, seem to be similarly expected to be performed by transgender men who are gestational parents. The gender assigned at birth and/or the role as the gestational parent seem to trump the present gender identity when it comes to others’ expectations of a person’s parenting role.

And then there is the obvious violation of the human right of children brought into the world to a mother and a father and not presented instead with two “fathers.”

One subject interviewed even says that she likes being a “father” because being a mother is too much work:

he described the relief of not feeling the pressure to live up to the high expectations generally placed on mothers

Thus, being a “trans man” means that a woman can pretend to be a man and be a “father” and the child is provided with no one functioning as a mother at all. This is bad for children.

In sum, we learn from this article that many “trans men” (who are women) seem eager to be “fathers” because motherhood seems to require too much actual caregiving and that it is incumbent on those who provide and need prenatal care to restructure the entire universe of women’s reproductive health provision to make it welcoming of women who hate the very idea of womanhood.

Such is the world the transgenderists wish to make.

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